Who do you fault if something goes wrong in your career? Yourself or someone around you?

How about if no one is to fault, but someone is responsible? How about if the responsible person is you?

Most people don't like to take responsibility. First of all, it's not fun. Second, responsibility forces you to look deep inside yourself to assess and reassess your life and career, which is also not fun. Finally, responsibility requires action and action requires work. Again, no fun.
In addition, most people are not accustomed to taking responsibility. We are used to assigning blame or an outside cause for our problems. And usually, we can find someone or something we can point to as the reason for our dissatisfaction.

I am not saying that you should fault yourself for everything that has gone awry in your career. Real things happen to real people, and in many cases, they are hard to go through and experience. Plus, faulting only "you" wouldn't be fair or realistic. I am saying to accept what has happened to you in your career, learn from it, forgive yourself, refocus, and then move on. This approach is the best use of your time and energy.

So How Do Your Take Responsibility For Your Career? Follow These 3 Steps Below:

1) Recognize What Not Taking Responsibly Is Costing You

Sometimes faulting others feels good. We like to be right and if we are right, then another party gets to be wrong. We feel vindicated because we know who hurt us and why they are at fault. Plus, we get sympathy and attention from the people around us. The downside to not taking responsibility is you stay stuck and stagnant which makes you feel worse. When something in your career does not go as planned, or you are thrown off course without notice, you have a decision to make. Be right (and stuck) or get moving. The decision is yours and you have the power to make it.

2) Recognize That Without Responsibility There Can Be No Forward Movement

When you accept responsibility for your career, a sense of calm will emerge. No longer will your energies be focused outward but inward on you. You will feel great, motivated, and empowered. Your sense of purpose and direction will reappear. You will enjoy being with you again. And, you will learn to trust and rely on yourself in ways that you did not know were possible before.

3) Recognize That, With A Plan, Great Things Happens

Accepting responsibility for your career will empower you to direct its course. You can plan again. You can open your calendar and put items into it again. You can take your goals and break them into small achievable pieces. You can look towards the future and the future will be brighter. You can move forward and achieve results. You can reach your goals. You are also freed up to look at other areas of your life where you want to be more responsible.
So, what do you say? You only have one life to live, so it might as well be a life you love!

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Deborah Brown-Volkman, PCC, is the President of Surpass Your Dreams, Inc. a career, life, and mentor coaching company. She is the author of "Coach Yourself To A New Career," "Don't Blow It! The Right Words For The Right Job" and "How To Feel Great At Work Everyday."